I am Jules
Human. Poet. Story Lover. Therapist.
I am on a journey to help myself and others have good boundaries. Having good boundaries helps us develop deep and resilient relationships with ourselves, with people we love, and with reality.
I became a therapist because I stumbled into a therapist's office when I was in a hard space, fought with him for several months over whether or not feelings are important (I argued they were not), and found myself at the other end transformed.
I remember the day I looked up at him from a grubby couch in a low cost clinic and said "Patrick, how did you get your job? I think I might want it."
So, I went to grad school a bit after that. Still thought the whole thing was probably woowoo BS, and studied the neuroscience to try to prove myself wrong...And here I am.
Writing, speaking, running intensive trauma recovery sessions, and relational healing workshops and couples intensives, all while teaching interpersonal neurobiology to anyone who will listen.
I have always been passionate about relationships and relational health, and try to live it well and screw it up all the time anyway. I can get lost in wondering about the nature of reality, and I love to get lost in the deep acceptance of both/and. Because sitting in not knowing intrigues me, in my therapy work I practice somatic experiencing and internal family systems, relational life therapy, and sand tray. I witness the healing of souls and the finding of self. And the bravery it takes to turn to a romantic partner and say I want you and I know we will mess this up but let's figure out how to turn to each other and grow this thing," is absolutely beautiful. So, I do trauma recovery and couples work (often at the same time) in my private practice.
I am passionate about my husband, daughter, and dog. I love my dear friends who know all of me and don't turn away. I am passionate about poetry (favorite of the moment: Poppies by Mary Oliver). I love to sit on the back porch and watch the trees move. I love a good accent of any kind but hill country Texas is my favorite. I am in love with this earth and all of the people in it. I am passionate about welcoming us all, with all of our messiness, and with loving firmness that can create respect and growth.